By: Amanda Frittz
Nowadays it’s not uncommon for people to be confused when you reveal to them you desire to follow a woman’s biblical role as being the keeper of the home.
“What’s your actual dream job?” or “Do you really find that fulfilling?” are often questions that follow.
I know I have been asked both of those questions, and I have always felt looked down on after replying. “My dream job is to support my husband,” or “yes I find it very fulfilling” wasn’t exactly what people wanted to hear.
Let’s face it, being a stay at home mom is not the “cool” thing to do anymore.
We are supposed to want more because a woman’s role as a homemaker is not seen as a valuable way to spend our life. Well, I disagree.. and so does the Bible. I believe being a homemaker is one of the most valuable jobs a woman could ever have.
Today we’re going to go over 3 powerful biblical truths the Bible reveals to us about a woman’s role as a homemaker.
We Have Equal Value to Men Despite a Woman’s Role Being Different
Ephesians 5:22-28 “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same
wayhusbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. “
Yes, wives and husbands have very different roles. However, the value for each is the same. Actually, the men’s instruction in the scripture above goes on several more verses emphasizing the importance of treating wives with fragility and love.
Despite women being called to submit to their husband, the man is given a much larger task. He is called to love his wife as Christ loved the church. Wow. That’s a lot! There’s no doubt in my heart that although God created different roles for men and women he values us the same.
As the Homemaker, We Allow Our Husbands to Focus on Providing & Family
Proverbs 12:4 “An excellent wife is the crown of her husband,”
As wives, we get to be our husband’s greatest helper and biggest fan! I love that my work around the house helps my husband keep a clear headspace so he can focus on work. It’s a precious role that I hold dearly.
Adam and I didn’t start our marriage by following these biblical roles. Actually, we split house chores, both worked, and Adam would do the majority of the cooking.
As you can probably imagine, that didn’t work out for long. A few months into our marriage we both were exhausted and frustrated. We realized doing marriage our way was just not working. So, we joined a biblical online marriage program and looked to the bible for advice in our roles.
Genesis 2:18 “The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”’
Since submitting to the Bible we have noticed a huge impact on the frequency of disagreements we have. We just don’t bicker as much. Of course, we still have disagreements but the regularity of them has
We have seen the fruits of obeying God in our own lives. That is one of the reasons why we are so passionate about living out what the Bible has to say. We know our works are not going to impact our eternity, but they have genuinely helped us to have a better worldly life.
All in all, as Adam and I have both submitted to our roles we have each become more efficient at our jobs. As a homemaker, I have made it possible for Adam to only need to focus on work. He no longer has to stress about making meals, or cleaning the house on a regular basis.
In return, he has been slowly taking over all financial responsibility.
We Get to Raise up an Army of Faithful Believers
Proverbs 22:6 “Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.”
I believe people that don’t value a woman’s role don’t understand how much of an impact they have.
While I’m not yet a mother, I am surrounded by multiple stay at home moms. Mothers have the potential to have a huge influence on their children. They can shape their habits, and their values.
For example, if you raise children to have a lot of T.V. time they are going to continue that habit throughout their life. The same thing can occur with more positive behaviors. If you raise your child to clean their room, help their siblings, and work hard they will also continue to carry those traits.
It’s a lot easier for a child to learn good habits than it is for them to break bad habits later. This is one reason why a women’s role as a homemaker has so much value!
If a kid goes to daycare or school for more hours than they get to spend with their family, that will be their primary influence.
This blessing to your children alone adds so much value to a women’s role. Women have been given a huge responsibility and have been tasked with being in charge of things God values